A writer I know—an actual, published one!—once said he’d never write a sex scene. I can respect that. Plenty of classics have, at best, innuendo. Still, other texts, going back to the Bible and beyond have sex scenes. I read about writing. Experts say that readers want stories that will help them cope with issues they face. We all face sexual issues, whether we face them as asexuals, curious sexuals, or hyper-sexuals. Many modern novels have sex scenes to make them more realistic. Or lucrative. Although much of my writing is a kind of horror, the stories often involve sexual insecurities. There are few other areas in life where we make ourselves so vulnerable. A lot of people, I think, get hurt. There’s part of the dilemma of the sex scene right there. It reveals an awful lot about the writer. I grew up as an asexual. I didn’t date until my junior year of college, if you can even call what I did then da...
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